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Do You Need to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom?

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Grab a pen and paper, and jot down your answers to the 10 questions below to find out if you need to spice up your sex life. Choose one answer only for each question. After you respond to the questions, you'll find your score and some valuable tips on how to improve sex.

Mostly A Responses -- Boring in the Bedroom

If you responded A to most of the questions, you have a boring sex life at the moment. To improve the situation, you and your spouse need to get more comfortable with one another. Start from scratch. Take things slowly. Kiss and touch each other and discover what you like and don't like. Then, discuss what you're feeling. Build up your own self-esteem. Once you are comfortable with yourself, you'll be more comfortable with your spouse. You can improve your sex life with a little effort and a lot of love.

Mostly B Responses -- Below-Average Sex Life

If you responded B to most of the questions, you have a below-average sex life. But all is not lost. Love is the foundation of your relationship. And even if things are somewhat slow in the bedroom, you care deeply for your spouse. You probably once had a very satisfying sexual relationship with your spouse. Now, your job is to build on your sentiments for one another to make your sex life more passionate. Sometimes, a little romance is all it takes to do the trick. Remember why you were hot for each other in the first place -- and try to recapture the good times.

Sex might seem stale now. But if you open up to one another about your needs, build trust, and experiment with new positions, things should improve.

Mostly C Responses -- Sex Life is Just Right

If you responded C to most of the questions, you and your spouse have a fulfilling sex life. You probably have a solid image of yourself, you know what you want and how to communicate that to one another, and you're willing to try new things. To make sure things stay good, you should never take one another -- or your sex life -- for granted. Go on dates, do romantic little things to prove your feelings, and make sex a priority. In other words, keep up the good work!

Mostly D Responses -- X-Rated Sex Life

If you responded D to most of the questions, you and your spouse have a wild sex life. While it is wonderful that you are sexually satisfied, you should check in with one another to make sure that your spouse's other needs are being met, too. Almost every couple has something on which they could work to improve. Since you are so open, you should be able to discuss anything and work together to resolve problems. Then, just sit back and enjoy one another!
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