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How to Talk Dirty during Sex

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Dirty talk in the bedroom can make sex more exciting. Some people say talking dirty can even make their orgasms stronger. But a lot of people are embarrassed by the dirty talk. You don’t have to be one of them. Here are some tips from dirty talk experts about how to get over your fears and enhance your sexual pleasure with dirty talk tonight –

Dirty Talk - Write It Down

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"Start with sexy texts or e-mails. It's often less embarrassing to write something down than it is to say it straight to someone's face – even better if you're not around when he reads it! Start small. Send a short text saying, 'How good was our sex last night? I want more!' Slip a sexy note into his wallet or briefcase saying, 'I can’t stop thinking about having sex with you. I might have to take matters into my own hands tonight because you won't be around.'" –according to iVillage.com

Dirty Talk - Talk Dirty to Yourself

"Carol Queen, author of the highly recommended Exhibitionism for the Shy, suggests starting on your own, talking dirty while you masturbate. Fantasize about having sex with your partner and talking dirty to him. You can start by doing it in your head, but eventually do it out loud." -Cory Silverberg, Guide to Sexuality for About.com

Dirty Talk - Set Your Mind to It

"Put yourself in the right mindset. Listen to tunes that turn you on, read racy fiction, or conjure up steamy scenarios involving you and your dude. Do some deep breathing and let your body totally relax. Then, experiment with sounds you could utter the next time you're in the sack." -Cosmopolitan

Dirty Talk - Say It Out Loud

"There's no way around it – you won't know what to say until you know what words turn you on. So you just have to spit some out. Words, I mean." -Lynne Stanton, author of Dirty Talk: Speak the Language of Lust (Chronicle Books, March 2006)

Dirty Talk - Assume a Role

"Dress the part. Getting into character can help take you out of the person you are on a daily basis and allow you to confidently play the part. Put on a red garter and stiletto heels, and confidently talk dirty to your guy as you lead him into the bedroom and beyond." –Modern Mom's MiShaun Taylor

Dirty Talk - Stroke His...Ego

"Men don't like to talk about it, but they are insecure – very insecure. They need constant reassurance that they are pleasing you and making you happy. They need to hear it every single time – that yes you are satisfied. They may not want to admit it, but if you don’t feel good, they don’t feel good. So, it is crucial for them to know: 'Am I pleasing her…or not?' So, if you don't tell him, how is he going to know? The time to tell him, to show him with your words and sounds and actions, is when you are making love." –Duncan Roberts on the How to Talk Dirty Web site

Dirty Talk - Tell Him What You Like

"Conquer your nerves by starting simple. Tell your guy that you like the way he's touching you, saying something like, 'It feels so good when you stroke me like that.'" -Cosmopolitan

Dirty Talk - Be Loud

"When you are physically intimate, that is the time to release your inner sensual voice – in low moans, deep groans, and husky whispers, with sweet murmurs and soft long purrs…your very feminine scream as your pleasure reaches maximum…the long-drawn 'AHH' of true, deep, heartfelt fulfillment." –Duncan Roberts on the How to Talk Dirty Web site

Dirty Talk - Give the Play by Play

"Describe exactly what you are doing to each other or what you would like done to one another. For example, you could say, 'Kiss my breasts,' or 'Give me a lap dance.' -Francesca Di Meglio, Guide to Newlyweds for About.com

Dirty Talk - Suprise Your Spouse

"I didn't tell my boyfriend about this little experiment ahead of time. Instead, when we’d already started going at it, I began using dirty, sexy words to describe how he looked and how I was feeling. The freedom of expression heated up our usual routine, and I loved seeing his reaction." -Redbook

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