Continuing to date your spouse after you marry is one way to keep romance alive, say many marriage counselors and relationship experts. But no one ever seems to offer suggestions on where to go or what to do with your husband or wife. After all, going to the corner bistro every Saturday night eventually loses its charm. To help you brainstorm for your next date night, here are suggestions (from the tame to the wild):
1. Get hot in the kitchen. Pick up the ingredients you need to create a fabulous meal at the grocery store and then return home and cook it together.
2. Get to cookin' in the bedroom. Throw a slumber party for two. Have dinner in bed and have each other for dessert.
3. Plan a movie night. Rent a flick that you’ll both enjoy, make popcorn, and get cozy under the blanket on the couch.
4. Take note of every stride. Go for a hike or long walk together.
5. Jump for java. Get coffee at your favorite coffee house and just talk to one another.
6. Soak in the sun. Swim, lounge, and enjoy a day at the beach or pool.
7. Make like kids again. Go to a theme park and clutch each other on the scary rides.
8. Sing, sing a song. Perform a duet at a karaoke bar.
9. Take in a thrill. If you’re adventure seekers, you can go skydiving together.
10. Head to the zoo or museum. Stroll through the exhibits, hold hands, and comment on what you see and learn.
11. Attend a concert and sing out loud to one another. Rocking out – even if you’re more Beethoven than Bon Jovi – is a great stress reliever.
12. Take a sculpting or drawing class together. Or go to one of those stores where you can paint pottery. Your art will give your beloved a new window into your personality.
13. Challenge each other to a tournament. Miniature golf, bowling, pool, or the arcade are always great for some old-fashioned fun and friendly competition.
14. Share some sweetness. Go to a diner and share a milkshake. Delicious!
15. Let it snow. Sledding is a delight for children of all ages.
16. Rent a motor scooter and go for a spin. Think Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Peck in Roman Holiday!
17. Stop to smell the roses. Flowers are an eternal symbol of romance. Head to the botanical gardens and learn all about them together.
18. Take a road trip. Go to the city if you live in the country or to the country if you live in the city. See how the other half lives.
19. Plan a picnic. Fill up a picnic basket with goodies – bread, wine, cheese, fruit. Go to the park and share your feast with one another. Don’t forget your picnic blanket.
20. Act like tourists in your own neighborhood. Go to one of the major sites, take photos, and pretend you’re seeing this place again for the first time.
21. Draw sketches of one another. Even if you can’t draw, you’ll have fun and create a lovely memory.
22. Shoot each other...at your nearby paint ball or laser tag facility.
23. Take to the ice. Glide at the nearest ice skating rink.
24. Camp out and kiss under the stars. Roast marshmallows to boot. If you are not the outdoor types, opt for the planetarium for safer star gazing.
25. Root for the home team. Head to a sporting event of your choice. Indulge in hot dogs, peanuts, and Cracker Jack.
26. Climb a wall or a real mountain together. This sort of activity is fun but also helps couples build trust.
27. Say yes to the vino. Participate in a wine tasting or a food and wine pairing event.
28. Volunteer for a worthy cause together. Visit the ill, organize a fundraiser for a non-profit, or work at a shelter. You’ll spend time with each other, but you’ll also make a difference and help others.
29. Gamble on your love. Try your luck at a casino.
30. Look at the homes and properties for sale in your area. You may find a bargain that you’ll actually buy or you’ll just dream out loud about your future together. Either way, you win!
31. Whip out the board games. Have a tournament of your choice – Battleship, Monopoly, cards, Playstation, etc. For a twist, the winner has to take the loser out to dinner for another date night.
32. Indulge in a different meal. Think outside the box and go out for a romantic breakfast instead of dinner.
33. Go window shopping. Consider looking for something you want but do not actually need – a stereo, fancy barware, a home theater.
34. Get thee to da club. Dance all night like you did when you were single – but this time dance with each other.
35. Have dessert for dinner. A huge sundae, sinful brownies, and decadent cheesecake are delicious at any hour.
36. Appreciate the art of words. A poetry reading can spark romance – or at the very least a stimulating conversation.
37. If you are on the same page (read: political aisle), then campaign together. Political rallies get couples united behind a candidate who they think could improve their lives. It gives them a sense of accomplishment, too.
38. Make love and go all out. Wear sexy lingerie, send each other naughty text messages beforehand, light candles, throw rose petals on and around the bed, use edible body paints – whatever you must do to take the romance up a notch.
39. Go up to the sky. Take a hot air balloon ride.
40. Look up. Watch the sun rise or set from a beautiful location.
41. Eat something new. Pick a restaurant that serves an exotic, ethnic cuisine neither of you has ever tried before. Be as daring as you can with what you order. You just might like it!
42. Learn a romantic foreign language. French, Italian, Spanish, and many others sound like song. Then, practice talking to each other around the house but especially when you’re in the mood for love.
43. Rent a boat or head to a dock and go fishing. You can cook your catch later in the day, so it’s like two dates in one.
44. Accomplish a fun home project. Paint your basement a bright, new color, install your home theater, create a collage of wedding photos for the wall. You’ll work as a team and feel a whole new kind of satisfaction when you’re done.
45. Flirt, flirt, and flirt some more. At your favorite local pub or bar, order champagne and flirt with each other all night long. If you’re into role playing, you could even take on different personas for the evening and act like you’ve just met. Stay in character until you get home.
46. Fight for fun. Have a snow ball or water balloon fight. Water pistol shootouts can be lots of fun, too.
47. Whisper sweet nothings. Make out like teenagers on the couch.
48. Tee up for tea. Have high tea replete with scones and cucumber sandwiches at a ritzy hotel or tea house.
49. Go for a wreck record. Bump each other with bumper cars.
50. Get a couple’s massage at a spa. You’ll get the knots out of your back while bonding with your spouse. How relaxing!