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Francesca  Di Meglio

Marriage Amid Tragedy

By November 7, 2012

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Wedding Album Wednesday - Hurricane Sandy Challenges Couples

Hurricane Sandy - Francesca Di Meglio

As Hurricane Sandy blew into New Jersey, it took with it this tree, which lifted the sidewalk and bus stop off the ground. Photo by Francesca Di Meglio

As the East Coast braces for yet another storm today, I'm reflecting on the one that just hit, Hurricane Sandy. Living in New Jersey, I faced the storm head on in my home and surrounded by my family. Barring a barbecue that is hanging off the terrace and shingles that fell off the roof, my home and family are safe and sound. The damage in the photo above is very close to my home, and seeing this kind of destruction all around me got me thinking about the weddings that were set to take place the weekend after the hurricane hit.

In fact, I know of at least one person who attended a wedding right after the storm. Although the tone was more subdued than most weddings, it shone like a bright light for those who had lost everything, or at least that is what I imagine. After all, the guests were still able to get a warm meal in a heated space that managed to have electricity with darkness all around them. And they could celebrate love amid hard times.

The newlyweds who wed despite the storm and other couples in the area are now confronted with various struggles - from finding shelter if they lost property to uniting to help their neighbors. While weddings are beautiful and can be a nice distraction when something horrible like this hurricane strikes, it is marriage (not the paper stating you are married but the state of mind) that will help families rebuild and survive in the face of adversity.

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November 7, 2012 at 12:04 pm
(1) Nancy says:

My husband was thousands of miles away during the storm, but he made sure we were as prepared as possible before he left, and called and emailed throughout the hurricane and the following days. It made a huge difference; I didn’t feel alone, even though he wasn’t physically here. My heart goes out to all the storm victims; we’re doing what we can to send supplies and monetary help north to our neighbor states.

November 7, 2012 at 1:50 pm
(2) phylameana says:

I saw media coverage about a bride and groom who had their wedding plans dampened by Sandy. It was reported that every person in the wedding party had been adversely affected by the storm in some way… yet they were determined to make their day the happiest ever.

November 7, 2012 at 2:09 pm
(3) Sukhmandir Kaur says:

Catastrophic events are the test of mettle and strength of character and either tear relationships asunder or cement them with an unbreakable bond. Such determination as shown by those who choose to go ahead with wedding pans despite adversity will also help them to weather the storms of marriage.

November 7, 2012 at 2:29 pm
(4) NSGill says:

They’re such an excellent reminder of just how minuscule we and our lifespans are in the grand scheme of things. How life goes on regardless of our metropolises. I think I like attributing your next storm out there to a capable warrior goddess.

November 7, 2012 at 10:19 pm
(5) Susan says:

I sympathize with the storm victims, having gone through several major hurricanes myself and knowing the havoc they can cause. Where I live, however, we don’t have to contend with vicious winter storms in the immediate aftermath. I’m not sure whether I would continue with a wedding under the circumstances or opt for a postponement. I guess it would depend upon the amount of inconvenience and lost funds involved.

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