The other day I was really angry with my husband. We had guests coming over, which we had both forgotten about. When I called to remind him, he had to change his plans, which frustrated him. When he returned home earlier than he intended, he was cranky. I was already annoyed because my work day wasn't going as I had planned either, so we argued.
I couldn't stand the thought of having to yell at him and get back to work and then welcome our guests with a big smile. So, I just walked out the door and went for a walk. I left my cell phone and computer behind, so it was just me and my feet. All I had, in fact, were my keys.
Why go for a walk when you're angry? Well, for one, it helps you clear your head and put the argument in perspective. It gives you a chance to reflect on the other person's feelings and his or her side of the discussion. Moving and taking in the fresh air - even when it's cold out like it was for me the other day - makes you feel better. It wakes you up. You take in a couple of deep breaths outside and you feel like a new person. For me the most important reason to go for a walk is to prevent yourself from saying things that you'll regret later. In the heat of the moment, I lose my cool -- and I hate feeling guilty afterward. This way, everyone wins. We take a break from the fight, I get some time outdoors, my husband gets some alone time, and then we can meet up later and work things out when we've both given more thought to everything. This trick - taking a walk when you're angry - doesn't only work with your husband or wife. You can use it to calm down after fighting with parents, your boss, anyone.
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