From the article: Great Marriage Advice from Married People
Although you can go through pre-marital counseling, prepare your finances, and move in together, you and your husband or wife will gain experience in marriage on the job. Still, you can learn from other couples and try to figure out what it takes to stay together forever. If you've been married a year or more, we'd like to hear from you. Some of you have already shared your tips with the Newlyweds guide. But we can always learn more. So, share your best marriage advice here. Share Your Advice
Getting along
- The second time around isn't any easier than the first.... it's still work! Trying to find the inner peace within each other is the hardest part. Marriage is never easy.. its a constant job, that you have to work at. Being a Mother is easier than being a wife... Motherhood comes natural, while marriage is like a non paying job you have to constantly be good at. Men are like children, they have to have attention all the time. Women are nuturing, and they seek that. Good luck all of you ... Don't forget to communicate with each other. always, or you are sure to loose the one you love!
- —Guest Michelle
Get Cozy
- How's this for advice? Buy each other Snuggies and cuddle.
- —Guest Matt
Plan Financially
- In my experience, a lot of marriages falter because of financial troubles. One of the best things a married couple can do is plan carefully for their economic future by living frugally and saving money. This should help ease stress around money issues and help your marriage weather tough economic times (like the 2008-2009 recession!).
- —Guest Marriage Observer
Be an individual
- Re: "two becoming one" and being your spouse's other half--Fine if it works for you, but it's not for everybody. My husband and I are two people and are very different in many ways. That's how we like it. I don't want to have conversations with a mirror; it's far more interesting to someone who can provide a different perspective, or teach me about things I don't know. Nor do I want a conjoined twin, thankyouverymuch.
- —owll
Communicate
- We have been married 34 years this June, and I was amazed when a friend mentioned that my husband and I have general conversations with each other. We each have our own interests, but we also have interests we share. Talk about things; you never resolve anything by running away and pretending it isn't so. Talk not yell!
- —Guest manitobachil
