From the article: How to Get Along with Your In-Laws
Every newlywed has that moment, where he or she notices the quirk in the in-laws, the traditions or behaviors that seems downright bizarre or maybe even wrong. Even if you have the nicest in-laws in the world, you still probably don't always fit in with them or find some of the things they do to be weird or wrong or just different from how you and your family behave. This is perfectly normal. But it's both entertaining and healthy to dish about the crazy in-laws. So, what bizarre behavior had you thinking your in-laws were crazy or at least a little different? Tell Us about the In-Laws
the whole family is nuts!
- When I first met hubby's family seven years ago, they seemed wonderful. Everyone seemed so loving and fun. And then I got to know them. Everyone bashes everyone else behind their backs while acting sweet as pie to their face. They're all critical and vindictive, not to mention dramatic and manipulative. They absolutely thrive on creating drama and discord. My husband is nothing like them. He's kind and caring and is never harsh to anyone. I don't understand how he came from a family like that. My father-in-law is a compulsive liar, and my mother-in-law is the most manipulative, two-faced person I've ever met. My grandmother-in-law shot my grandfather-in-law in the stomach, for goodness sake! That's not normal! I'm at the point now that I've decided to separate from them completely. I've tried so many times over the years. I wanted us all to get along but that just isn't going to happen.
- —Guest over it
Who would've thought???
- I always knew that my MIL had issues with me in general before her son and I even got married. Recently, due to her health problems and some personal marital issues we all thought it would be ok to live under the same roof, boy was I soooo wrong. Mother and son get along great. When I'm not around she even has made his dinner and lunch, which was my responsibility before my husband enlisted the help of his mom. Lately, I've been getting a creepy vibe from her. She looks at TV with the volume on 5 and complains when I turn my TV to 25 that's it too loud, and she can't hear her TV. In reality, she can't hear what's going on between her son and I. If we are too quiet, she'll walk into her room and just stand in the middle of the floor to hear what we're saying. I'm scared to take a shower at times because you can hear a pin drop once it's over and time to dry off. My husband seems unfazed but as for myself I wouldn't have ever thought I'd be living in the house of horrors.
- —June211
My crazy sister in law
- I was very close to my brother-in-law for many years. He would call and ask for advice, and he would spend his military weekends with us. He married a girl who is an absolute nightmare. They bicker and belittle each other. She accused him of having an affair with me. The first time we met her, she slapped him across the face. Three kids later, he isn't going to leave. Rather, the family, expects my husband and I to make the relationship work with them. Despite repeated attempts to repair misunderstandings, mistakes we've made, etc., my SIL is the first to talk behind my back and further perpetuate conflict among the four of us. Out of respect for my BIL, I am cordial. But each time, she pulls the dagger out and stabs me in the back some way. It is always something I or my husband have done wrong. We should visit them on vacation time, so the cousins will know each other. They think we shun them because we choose family vacations vs traveling across the country to be with them.
- —Guest Ccjean
controlling in-laws
- First of all, my husband and I are very young, and we had a child young. I'm 18, and he is 21. My mother-in-law loves to gossip and cause drama in our relationship. And my father-in-law loves to control every situation. When we first moved out of their house when I was four months pregnant, they would call and ask if every bill was taken care of. Then, once I had my son, they became the type who would always ask my husband if we needed a babysitter for the morning because I have an issue with over sleeping, mainly because I'm so stressed from having had a newborn and having no job. Then, they both voluntarily come over, as if they are checking up on us. My biggest issue is they didn't even want us getting married and now I feel they are trying to split us up. What should I do to make them back off?
- —Guest Victorya
Is my husband a mama's boy?
- We have been married for three years now, and we have a child together with my two own daughters. I have noticed that my husband always mentions his mom, since day one. For example, "My mom cleans this like this." And "She does that like that. She has a heart just like her mother, she loves to provide for people, and needed nothing for herself, etc." But things got worse since we've been married. We bought a house, which is just a five-minute drive from my in-law's house (as i thought it would be a great help when we have another child). I had a good relationship with my in-laws before we got married , but now I am fed up. I feel that my mother-in-law loves to get involved in a lot of things in my private life. And my husband loves her, and stands up for her in most cases. They phone each other almost every two nights, and they always have lots of things to talk about. I first thought my in-laws are weird, but it's just that my husband is the one who initiates these calls and interactions.
- —Guest vivian
Mockery from MIL
- I have a MIL who runs to her friends (who are just as nasty) and gets hot gossip about me and my former bf. She mocks me to my face when my hubby isn't around and makes me look like I'm crazy. She constantly compares her other son and his wife to me and my hubby. And she creates competition. She bullies. And when she's angry, you just feel it and wonder when the next subtle but nasty abuse is coming. She loves power and she loves to dominate. She runs me down and makes me feel wound up/nervous. She always has an answer for everything. I feel like sticking up for myself. But if I say anything, she twists it. She beats me up with hot gossip and she "calls in the troops" of her vicious nieces/relatives to "discipline" me. I don't have much family. My family is loving and caring. She and the women of her family are many and they like to back stab, bully. They are just catty and never look at themselves as if they have a problem. I love my hubby. But they're abusive.
- —Guest Jody
Worst Mother in law
- Hi, I have the worst mother-in-law. She always tries to create problems between my husband and me. She was always in my room from the morning until 11, and when I complained about this she told my husband that I wanted to break up the family. I hate her from my heart and don't want to see her. She used to wash clothes and when I told her to give it to maid she used to say that is what she will be doing in her free time. She always tries to create problems between me and my husband. She always sticsk to him even we have been married for two years. She has made my life hell and spoiled my relationship with my husband. My husband is such a blind man that he never sees his mother's faults. She is a disgusting lady. She is very jealous of me and always acts very polite in front of my husband. Sometimes, I feel like killing myself. I want to stay in my office for a long time and never return to hell. Everyday I clean the whole house, prepare lunch and breakfast for everyone but still nobody cares for me, even my own husband. I am very alone.
- —Guest Swati
Subversive manipulation
- My in-laws are financially dependent on their their children. The oldest one's wife doesn't even speak to them and they're not welcome in his house. They can't stay with their daughter either. So now they live with us, and my husband being a good son doesn't want them to live alone. That's fine - they didn't cause me much trouble earlier and I thought they were nice, helpful and amiable. However, the irritation is starting a couple of years on. I find his father doesn't care two hoots about anything or anyone, and his mom is very sweet on the face but extremely manipulative, ensuring she gets her way, especially when they want to buy nice and expensive things. I feel like they use my husband, and he's a very loving family man, so he never doubts anyone. This is giving birth to a latent anger in me, especially as I observe things now. For example, my mom-in-law uses expensive ingredients in her food, but is stingy on quality for others' dishes. Being the one helping in the kitchen, I see all this.
- —Guest entity
They're All the Same
- It's a sad truth that most MILs are crazy. SIL, in my case, only adds to the nut farm. I don't have enough space to tell you people what this family has done and tried to do to me over the 20 years that I have known my husband. I can only assume that they are jealous and angry that I refuse to be controlled by them. My husband and I have separated and almost divorced because of these lying freaks. Thank God he finally saw the light. It only took 15 years to convince him that they were all insane and hated me. Respect is a two-way street. If I do not receive it, they don't either and the visits were not pleasant. FIL refuses to acknowledge my existence. It's quite comical now, moving to another state helped. I have also put my foot down that the ILs are never stepping foot in my home again. PERIOD. From being nasty to my children to being disrespectful to me, this shouldn't be an issue for my husband now. But guess what? It is.
- —Guest Tired
sis in law
- How do you deal with wife's only brother and SIL who visit every holiday and two months of summer, and never visit her two sisters, one brother, and parents? The last three Thanksgivings, not with them, last four Christmases not with them, with us!
- —Guest johnsirianno
HPD,Bipolar
- MIL stated she had sex with her son's. It's not true, but why would anyone say something like that? Who in her right mind would joke like that? MIL called me a whore, slut, and other names. One time I asked her to watch my kids, and she said, "Those are your kids. Watch your own expletive kids!" (She yelled and looked all evil) but she watches the kids of my brother in law's baby mama (who is his cousin). She even watches this woman's other kid, who is not her grandchild, and she makes him call her grandma. The brother in law still lives at home, he is a mama's boy. He's 34 years old, and he brings women to the house. He taught his son not to call me Ms. Sha...or Aunt Sha.. Brother in law hates me and has always been jealous of his brother and our relationship. They talk bad about everyone. I do not go around them. I probably see them twice a year and not by choice. They drink too much, and my father in law smokes weed. The cousins sleep with each other's men. The whole family is evil demons.
- —Guest Morris
Silly people with no clue
- Our first meeting I gave my MIL a bouquet of 24 tulips .She repeatedly thanked her son. She would ask that her son grandpa-sit her dad who lived with her while she spent the weekend visiting her husband. Hubby worked weekends, so I did it. We go over Fri night and I spent Sat with gramp - gave him meds, helped in the bathroom, cooked. She thanked hubby. She wore an ugly dress to the wedding. Said the wedding was not fancy enough. After the wedding, she asked hubby over every Fri for help hanging pics. After a few years, after every doctor's appointment asked if I was pregnant. Got back with my FIL, and he stopped talking to me. She asked what we needed for baby when we were pregnant. I told her. She said she could never get things like that for a baby (wool diaper covers, organic bum cream and wash). She insisted on crib, which we already had. After birth, she told us to make the baby cry for his food. I shouldn't breast feed, only pump. Wouldn't give baby over to be fed. She showed up for two weeks every morning to see junior without calling first. She told hubby that I called her a bad grandmother. Lie. Threatened to move when we asked for space. Silly Drama Queen! I move.
- —Guest Mmmmamma
craziest mother in law on the plantet
- Let me give you a quick background on my husband and I. We met in middle school, "dated" our 8th grade year, and on/off all through HS. After graduation we got serious, moved in together, married & have 2 kids. During the early years my MIL made no effort to hide the fact she hated me! Would say "I didn't like you when you were kids, & I don't like you now","you will never be good enough for my son",would introduce my husband and kids by name, then say "and that's his wife". My husband never said anything to her, always made excuses because she had a mild stoke when he was 3. We eventually moved 550 miles away & life was amazing,until last year when my FIL passed away & my MIL decided to spend the winters with us in the south. This year those winters turned into FOREVER. I am ready to leave my husband b/c of her. We fight b/c he wont stand up to her. She competes w/me over everything from sitting on my husbands lap to who irons his dress shirts better.
- —Guest Marci
She is an ugly stalker
- My in laws are still extremely close to his ex. They were together for a very long time. Granted, he is married but that doesn't stop her from saying nasty things about me on FB or her giving me dirty looks. They tell me to get over it and move on. My response - you will be lucky if you see me again in next 10 years.
- —Guest Ex Drama
Life with Parents-in-Law
- I would have loved to live far away from my in-laws. They live AROUND THE CORNER from me and my hubby. We just had our baby boy (2 months old) and this is exactly why I dreaded having children: my mother-in-law would come over unexpectedly-especially in the early mornings-to visit her grandson, and would walk right into our room (where the baby sleeps) without warning or the decency to ask (I'm usually not completely up by this time). Then she has 100+ questions about whether he is getting enough sleep? Am I feeding him enough? Am I eating well for him? Is he being talked to or carried enough? Do I sing to him? Read? Which may not sound so bad, except that she asks my husband right in front of me instead of asking US, almost like she's indirectly telling me HOW to care for my son. Her husband, my father-in-law would also walk into my room sometimes and if my son was asleep, they'd wake him! Aaaghhhh! Only parents will understand my frustration there, as we know newborns wake up every 2 hours.
- —Guest xtine87
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