From the article: How to Get Along with Your In-Laws
Every newlywed has that moment, where he or she notices the quirk in the in-laws, the traditions or behaviors that seems downright bizarre or maybe even wrong. Even if you have the nicest in-laws in the world, you still probably don't always fit in with them or find some of the things they do to be weird or wrong or just different from how you and your family behave. This is perfectly normal. But it's both entertaining and healthy to dish about the crazy in-laws. So, what bizarre behavior had you thinking your in-laws were crazy or at least a little different? Tell Us about the In-Laws
I'm lucky--my in-laws are wonderful!
- I had a horrible relationship with my own parents, who were violent and abusive. When I moved in with my fiance' about a year ago i was shocked: his parents (my soon-to-be in-laws) were sweet, fun, down-to-earth and delightful. My mother-in-spirit is wacky. We don't agree about everything but she's a lot like me. She always says that things work and function better if they're pink (i.e., cell phones, laptop computers, etc), and we tend to argue about who's going to clean because we BOTH want to do it. We're both neat freaks. I'm so happy that i have a loving family.
- —Guest Leah
Are the in-laws for real?
- Everyone else's stories make me feel as though I shouldn't complain - but I will. We moved in with the in-laws two years ago after my MIL had stroke. I realize now that it's been a long two years! MIL friend came over to do MIL's hair and she brought her dog; yes, the dog is cute! But MIL says, "...Oh Linda, come see the dog..." I have seen the dog on prior visits. I think the dog is really cute, but I am currently having a bad episode of my chronic pain and I am trying to write out the checks to pay our bills and my FIL's bills. I said it was not a good thing for me to see the dog, since MIL & FIL frown upon husband & I getting another dog. (We had to put down our dog in Jan 2010, though we only had her five years. (She was a rescue.) It was hard & FIL was negative about us having a dog (but she was part of a package deal - she went where we went & we moved in with MIL & FIL), so I state my thoughts & it winds up where dog's owner thought I was speaking of her, which I wasn't. I was speaking of THEM! I never knew life could be so hard. God bless you.
- —Guest Linda
Crazy friendships...worse than in laws!
- We are from India, so I don't have to deal with my immediate in-laws. They only visit us once a year. My parents are in India, too. The problem is I have two step sons and a daughter with my husband. The older son's grandma is overly involved and is a good friend of my husband, so whenever we have the older son, she comes over and she would be with the boy all the time. It is just too much for me. The boy comes every other weekend, and I have to deal with her and it just ruins my relationship with my stepson (7 years) as he wouldn't listen and threw a fit. This is not all. We have another 68 year old who is my husband's good friend. She is single and retired. She doesn't have any grandkids from her only son, so she treats our kids as her grandkids. Even she would intrude on my life and suggests moving into my house, so she can be around the kids. She is like a mother to my husband, so he might consider it, too. I don't drive (learning), so I am dependent on her at times my husband isn't around. How can I avoid her?
- —Guest tina
Manipulative in laws
- Its been 1 year of marriage with my long term BF. My mil & fil are very manipulative. They lie BIG. They act very caring and affetionate in front of my husband. My mil is always to passing useless and provocative comments about me always in my husband's absence. Though I bring these t my hubb's notice he has'nt bothered. I ride 15kms up-down to ofice everyday. Im facing lot of health issues. I have low BP and fainted on road a couple of times while riding. These is no bus facility near that house. The house we stay is 10x15ft. Very crumped and suffocating for 2 adults. My mil rejects everything she said into she nvr said those things wen my hubby confronted her. I want to live with him peacefully and happily. I want to go seperate. I don't feel like goin home @ all. I hav come outta deppression recently but now I again feel so bad and after ofc I go n sit in temple till the temple closes so as to avoid goin to that hell. Please help.
- —jshwetha
It becomes difficult.....
- I'm 23 years old. I got married in 2010. I was vary happy with my marriage. As time passed, I felt that I found myself very lonely in the family. My MIL and FIL both have the same kind of thoughts. They have lots of expectations of me. I'm not able to fulfill all their desires. For this reason, they often criticize me to my husband in my absence. It makes me very angry and I'm frustrated with my in-laws. My husband's behavior also changed. What should I do?
- —Guest priyadutta
Where to start?
- I have been with my husband for 25 years and still feel uncomfortable around his sister. Her and her family are so into football. I know nothing about it and to tell you the truth, I don't care. My husband has two daughters (both adults). The older daughter he had not seen since she was a young girl. Her and I talk on Facebook, and I posted some pictures of her grandmother and grandfather. Her grandpa had polio and spent most of his time in an iron lung. I also added a newspaper article about him. She got upset with me for doing this. Then, one time, I was trying to get to know her better and began telling her about my life and when I met her brother. I went on to tell her how hard his ex-wife made it on me when it came to his younger daughter. Nothing I did was good enough. His sister went on to defend my husband's ex-wife. Things have not been the same since. Should I just wash my hands of her? I do not put my husband in the middle of it.
- —Guest Dawna
I am lost
- I am a simple girl with simple dreams. I got married in March 2009, but my in-laws - both of them - are very dominating and wanted things done their way. They want me around all the time, from 7 in the morning and 11 at night. They never want my husband and I to be alone. Whenever we do try [to get privacy], we fight with my mother-in-law. My father-in-law has severe diabetes, and he keeps abusing me, but he completely changes in front of my husband. Please tell me what to do.
- —Guest priti
New baby changes everything.
- I sat with my MIL while pregnant and poured my heart out about fearing ny choice to breastfeed because my family didn't support it and I didn't know if I could do it In the hospital my baby started to cry while MIL held her. I politely asked for my baby. Mil said " she's hungry you need to feed her" the room was full of people and she expected me to pull my breast out. My daughter wasn't hungry she had a wet diaper. I politely asked again for my l.o. And mil said "you hear that mommy knows you're hungry and refuses to feed you"!!! I then put my arms on my l.o. And told my mother in law to give her to me. Her response " are you going to feed her" I said no...she said... "Then nope" " mommy doesn't care that you are hungry"!!! I took my daughter from her after a faceoff for a few moments and went to change her. Explosive poop and gas proceeded! My poor baby was screaming the ENTIRE time this horrid woman took her power trip. She later lied to my husband playing down the rudeness
- —Guest Drama-free-MaMma
my in laws are the worst!
- i'm 18 with a ten month old. my husband works full time at a hospital and we both go to school full time. we are nice to everyone and very independent. we do not ask anyone for financial help as we are learning how to budget and save our small income. my MIL and SIL, who are all stupid with money and in debt, always put in little comments about all the stuff they have to pay for when my MIL only supports herself when she makes fifty percent more than my husband. and my SIL, who is seven years older than us who works and has a husband who works(both full time) tell people that i'm stingy with money but he makes more than them which is NOT true. i dont understand why they have to make me feel bad for getting the pelgrant money i deserve for actually going to college and making something out of myself. i feel like i'm trapped in this village full of idiots who always complain instead of focusing on the positive things in life. i really cannot wait to move far away once i get my degree
- —Guest stuck in redneckville
Funny Swiss in-laws
- I live in Switzerland with my in-laws. When we moved here it seemed like a great idea at the time. I really had no idea what I was getting myself into. There are seven of us living under one roof--the parents, sister, brother and brothers girlfriend and my husband and I. Not normal, I know. My life is now filled with weird situations. From all the men in the house having breakfast in thier underwear(including my husband) To my mother-in-law coming into the bathroom while I am on the toilet(she was on the phone with immigration)and asking me how I spell my name. Then she proceeded to ask, "but why do you spell it that way?" I really could go on and on. It seems like something funny happens everyday. In the long run it's kinda nice. Before my husband and I moved here we lived in Canada and I didn't know my in-laws at all. I always wondered what they were like. I must say sometimes it's nice to come home and everybody wants to know what your day was like.
- —underherthumb
