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15 Tips to Improve Oral Sex


Oral sex, cunnilingus, fellatio, blow jobs, or whatever pet name you and your spouse have for it makes for great foreplay and can enhance your sex life. Some cultures and religions frown upon oral sex, but many married couples turn to oral sex for stimulation and enhanced pleasure and intimacy. If you’re among those who enjoy oral sex (or would like to), here are tips on oral sex, including cunnilingus and fellatio, from various sex experts and publications –


Oral Sex – Improve Cunnilingus

1. Oral Sex - Know the Female Body

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"Guys, remember this: Men who perform great oral sex are always in demand. If a man wants to perform great oral sex, it is extremely helpful for him to know as much as possible about the female body. Not knowing is worse than being ineffective. It's too easy to end up fumbling and embarrassed. -according to the The Sensuous Couple: Guide to Seismic Oral Sex (JPS Publishing, April 2008) by D. Claire Hutchins and Avery Sinclair

2. Oral Sex - Kiss Her All Over

"Foreplay is necessary for women. Try kissing her from the neck down to her crotch. A little licking (done tastefully) might help. Kiss her thighs, too. You could even take her panties off with your teeth if you have skills." -Francesca Di Meglio,

3. Oral Sex - Slow and Steady

“Generally, women want anything you do with your tongue to be long and slow.” –Josey Vogels, author of the sex advice column “My Messy Bedroom,” in Men’s Fitness

4. Oral Sex - Focus on Technique

“In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes, circular, side-to-side, up and down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches – discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error – just try something else.” –Cory Silverberg, Guide to Sexuality for About.com

5. Oral Sex - Find the Clitoris

“The clitoris extends deep inside a woman’s body. When you flick your tongue quickly along its shaft, you’re covering more territory and creating vibrations that carry stimulation beyond the tongue’s reach.” – Lou Page, a sex educator and author of How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure (Piatkus Books, January 2002), in Men’s Health

6. Oral Sex - Remember Your Hands

“Use your hands to caress her backside and thighs while performing oral sex. Consider combining oral sex with manual stimulation to double her pleasure.” –Francesca Di Meglio, Guide to Newlyweds for About.com


Oral Sex – Improve Fellatio

7. Oral Sex - Express Your Love

"Be assured that there is nothing that compares to the warmth of your breath - the wet, sucking of your mouth, the firmness of your tongue…Nothing says 'I love you' quite like a blow job…Nothing!" -according to Oral Sex He'll Never Forget: 52 Positions & Techniques Guaranteed to Blow Your Man Away (Quiver, November 2009) by Sonia Borg

8. Oral Sex - Breath of Fresh Air

“At least one guy told Cosmopolitan that when a woman goes down on him after brushing her teeth with a minty toothpaste it gives the experience extra zing.” –according to Cosmopolitan magazine

9. Oral Sex - Talk Dirty

“As he hardens, squeeze the shaft of his penis, then smile with eager anticipation and say something like, ‘You’re so hard and thick, I love the way your hardness feels and tastes on my tongue. I can’t wait to feel it push past my lips into my mouth and then slide down my throat.” –according to Lip Service: A His and Hers Guide to the Art of Oral Sex & Seduction (Tarcher, January 2009) by Debra and Don Macleod

10. Oral Sex - Hand-Mouth Coordination

“A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If your partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far in your mouth.” –Cory Silverberg, Guide to Sexuality for About.com

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