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Solutions to Common Sex Problems

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Sex should be a satisfying part of a marriage. But for some couples, common sex problems become a source of tension and arguments. Common sex problems can get in the way of the relationship, and some couples have even separated over them. You can, however, address common sex problems and try to resolve them before they destroy the relationship and get in the way of love. Of course, you must see a doctor for persistent physical problems with sex. Although a sex therapist is sometimes necessary for bigger sex problems, there are ways you and your spouse can deal with common sex problems on your own together. Here are some common sex problems and their solutions-

One of you wants more sex.

Problem – Having different libidos is a common sex problem and one that most couples face. Usually, one of you wants more sex than the other. Perhaps, you even argue about the number of times per week you are or should be having sex.

Solution – This is an easy fix that requires a bit of compromise by both people. Discuss how many times a week would be enough for both of you, reach each other in the middle, and then start having that much sex. Even if you’re not in the mood, you should have sex, say couples experts. Once you get started, you’ll likely get excited and enjoy the sex, even if you felt tired or disinterested earlier.

Sex is getting boring.

Problem – After couples have been together for a long time, their sex life tends to ebb and flow. Every once in a while, things get downright boring. You fall into a routine and the sex seems to always be the same old story.

Solution – Break out of your rut. Try something new. You don’t have to go crazy or anything. But you can change positions or try one you have never done before. Or you can spice things up with extra foreplay, sex toys, sexy lingerie, dirty talk, or a massage. Even something as simple as a romantic dinner beforehand can make the sex better. Communicating what you both want and how to make sex more exciting can boost your sex life all on its own.

One or both of you would rather not be naked.

Problem – Sex requires nudity, but people often lack self-confidence. Perhaps, after the wedding, one or both of you got a little bloated. Happiness sometimes help people put on the pounds. You might not want even your spouse to see you naked because you’re not happy with your body. Your lack of confidence prevents you from losing your inhibitions with your spouse and can get in the way of enjoying sex. If you’re constantly thinking about your pudgy belly, you won’t enjoy the moment.

Solution – Get over yourself. That is the solution, but it’s never that easy. Instead, you should try to tell yourself that you’re beautiful, listen to your spouse who is undoubtedly telling you the same, and try to improve – without obsessing – whatever it is that is bothering you. If you’d like to get more fit and lose some flab, you and your spouse might take up exercise together. You’ll be healthier, feel better, and then the sex will be twice as good.

My wife never reaches orgasm.

Problem – As most people are aware, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men. Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen. This can make the woman disappointed with sex, while the man feels incompetent.

Solution – Sometimes, all it takes is a little extra attention to foreplay and the woman’s needs. Performing oral sex might help. But even additional romance and some extra hugging and kissing can do the trick in some cases. Still, even if she doesn’t orgasm, she still might enjoy the closeness and even rhythm of sex. Remember practice makes perfect, so keep on practicing. You’ll get it eventually.

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