Infertility, or the failure to conceive after a year or more of regular intercourse without protection, is more common than you think. Having a baby seems easy, but it's not that simple for every couple. Many couples have trouble getting pregnant. You’re not alone if you’re experiencing infertility. When baby lust takes over, couples can put pressure on themselves to get pregnant quickly, and then they grate on one another when things don’t work out as they planned. Here are some tips for keeping your relationship together when you’re trying to have a baby –
Consider the positives.
While you might have been terrified of getting pregnant back when you were a teenager having sex in the backseat of your boyfriend’s car, you are now free to have sex without protection and without worry. This freedom should lower your inhibitions. You can have sex whenever you’d like without any forethought about consequences, protection, or whether this is a risky time of the month for pregnancy. After all, you actually want it to be a risky time of the month for pregnancy. If the mood strikes while the two of you are eating dinner in your dining room, you can go for it. You have a built-in excuse for finding time to make love with one another. Can’t beat that.
Never let sex become a chore.
Just because you have to have sex – and perhaps even schedule it according to ovulation – doesn’t mean it has to be boring or feel like a job. Be romantic. Make yourselves a nice dinner and light some candles beforehand. Wear sexy lingerie. Take a bath together. Snuggle on the couch to get started. Foreplay and romance should still play a big part in your relationship.
Give Mother Nature a hand.When you first decide to try to get pregnant, you should just have sex without protection and see what happens. After six months of trying without conceiving, you might want to try things, such as ovulation test kits, taking your basal body temperature, and ovulation calendars. As long as you don’t become obsessed and dependent on these items, you should give them a try. They might help you pinpoint the times when you should have sex to increase your chances of conceiving.
Every person is different, and some couples simply can’t bring themselves to talk about their failed efforts at trying to conceive. Others, on the other hand, find comfort and advice when talking to people about the trouble they’re having getting pregnant. One couple might tell you about the ovulation test they took, which changed their life by making it possible for them to conceive. Another might suggest an infertility doctor. Another might share their story of failed efforts and how they persevered and now have two children of their own. You might feel better just by hearing their stories.