It's all about her.
Yes, soon it will be all about the baby. But during labor and delivery, it's all about mom. You must tend to her needs - from tracking down nurses if necessary to getting her ice chips, massaging her, and counting the minutes between contractions. If mom-to-be wants your mother-in-law, with whom you don't get along, to be in the room with you two, then swallow your pride, be kind, and let her join in the support. You must put aside your own feelings and needs to care for your wife or girlfriend, who is at best uncomfortable and at worst in a lot of pain, all to deliver this baby you created together.
Put down the remote control.
Your wife or partner must be the center of your attention now. That means you should not be indulging in TV watching or playing video games or leaving the room (unless your wife or a medical professional tells you to leave). You should be observing what's happening and asking your wife if she needs anything - from a hand to squeeze to a bear hug - to make her more relaxed and comfortable. A happy mommy will help baby get off to a happier start as well, so be attentive and loving and don't check the score on that game until the birthing process is done and over and everyone is safe and well.
Tend to your needs.
No one wants a support person who faints or is too weak to do any supporting. Since labor and delivery can last upward of 16 hours, especially with one's first baby, you should pack some snacks for yourself. Just as you should be encouraging your wife to stay hydrated, you should be doing the same for yourself. Drink plenty of water and keep up your strength by refueling with food. You'll be useless to your wife if you can't even stand up or end up getting treated in the hospital yourself.
