The first step is determining if you really have a mama’s boy on your hands. Here are some of the signs that your husband is a full-fledged mama’s boy:
Once you have established that you are indeed married to a mama’s boy, you have to determine what behavior is tolerable and what is not for you personally. For instance, you might be all right with your husband talking to your mother-in-law once or twice a day, as long as it doesn’t infringe on your time together. You might not like it if he turns to her with problems that he should be discussing with you. You might be fine with your in-laws living in the next town over, but you might not like it if your husband insists you live in the same house with them.
A big mistake many wives make is blurting their feelings out to their husband or mother-in-law in anger without thinking. Herb Goldberg, a practicing psychologist in Los Angeles and author of What Men Still Don’t Know about Women, Relationships, and Love (Barricade Books, June 2007), says women need to keep the peace and not make an issue of their husband’s relationship with their mom, even if it crosses a line. Instead, he says women need to develop a strong, personal identity, set limits with their husband and not their mother-in-law, and stand firm.