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Marriage Myths Busted

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We hold certain truths about marriage so dear that we are certain they are true. Upon closer inspection, however, they are completely false. What does it matter, you ask? Well, believing some of these marriage myths could influence your relationship and how you view married life. Without having to even conduct an investigation, you can learn the truth here and now. Here are some common marriage myths busted:

Marriage is magical and will change everything about your relationship, so that it is now perfect.

Many newlyweds enter their marriage with this fantasy of what life will be like. Maybe they've watched too many princess movies in which a fairy godmother waves her wand and Prince Charming is loving and wonderful and never pees on the bathroom floor. No matter how many people share reality with them, they expect a life of roses and champagne every day. If you fall into this category, you will be sadly disappointed. Sometimes, the shock is so great that it causes a breakdown in the marriage.

Your relationship won't change that much after you say, "I do." Yes, if you weren't living together before the wedding, you'll have to get used to sharing a home and being together practically all the time. But your spouse will be the same person. And you'll still have the same disagreements you had before the wedding (if you haven't had resolution). Basically, the essence of your relationship - from your communication to sex - will be the same, unless both of you make an effort to change or improve. Don't expect marriage to solve all your problems or magically transform your spouse into someone else. It will never happen.

Once you're married, you never have sex again.

Ok, you might believe that you will have some sex, but very little of it. By now, you've heard all the jokes about the wedding day being a funeral for your sex life. The fact is, however, that married people have more sex than single people. "One of the most comprehensive studies on the subject, which was released in 2010 by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, confirmed this, compiling statistics on sexual attitudes and habits of 5,865 people between ages 14 and 94," according to an article by Natasha Burton on the Huffington Post site. "An average of 61 percent of singles reported that they hadn't had sex within the past year, compared with 18 percent of married people."

Think about it. When you're married, you have a built-in sex partner. There's a convenience that singles lack. And married sex doesn't have to be all vanilla. Just having sex is a good start, but you can always try new things or infuse more romance into love making. All this is easier when you have a spouse with whom you've grown comfortable. You're constantly becoming more and more intimate, which only enhances sex.

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