Many newlyweds move to another city, where they don’t know anyone, and want to meet other couples friends. Finding a couple who lives near you and is a good match for both of you can be a daunting task. In fact, you’ll find yourself couples dating to determine if your future includes backyard barbecues for four or you and your spouse hiding when the couple on the other end rings the doorbell.
Meeting couples friends is the hardest part of couples dating. If you’re in the market for couples friends, here are some ways to meet other pairs –
Make friends at work.
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Work can be a drag, but it’s a surefire way to meet people, especially when you’re the new kid in town. Don’t just go for the guy in the cubicle next to you. Seek out those who are married, seem to have similar interests to you and your spouse, and live fairly close to you. The woman who commutes two hours to work everyday probably won’t want to make the drive to go bowling with you and your husband or wife. Sometimes, colleagues don’t make for the best of friends, so don’t get down on yourself if you don’t meet any couples through work.
Introduce yourself to the neighbors.Just about everyone, except those on farms, have neighbors. While the days when your neighbors popped over with pie and a smile to welcome you to town are over, there’s no rule against the new kids on the block knocking on doors to say hello. Also, wave hello to neighbors as they put out their garbage or get their mail. Be friendly. After all, friendliness begets friendliness.
Go to church or temple.Regardless of your religion, you probably have a place of worship where believers gather. Even atheists have meetings. But don’t just attend the service and leave. Sign up for the activities, such as the bake sale committee at your temple or Bible study at your church. You’re likely to meet couples with similar values through your house of worship.
Play sports.Going to the gym might have been the thing to do when you were single and still searching for love. Now, you can still get exercise while searching for couples friends. But you’ll have more luck signing up for the town’s recreational adult leagues or your company’s softball team than hanging out at the gym, which tends to attract more single folks. Many towns offer recreational teams for sports such as soccer, softball, or even badminton. The best part? Your health will benefit, too.
Join a club.If sports aren’t your thing, you might consider signing up for a club together. Many communities have volunteer organizations, bridge clubs, or book reading clubs. The only requirements should be that you both like to do the activity and that membership is co-ed.
Take a class.Most towns offer adult education at the local high school, or you might have a university nearby. You and your husband or wife could take a class in anything, including pottery, French, cooking, or guitar. Pick a topic that intrigues you both, and go for it. Even if the people you meet are taking the class on their own, they might be married or in a committed relationship.
Learn about online social networking.You probably already have a Facebook or Twitter account. Some of you might navigate Craigslist or citysearch. These sites offer opportunities to meet people in your neighborhood or catch up with old friends, who might now live near you. Some couples have even posted online ads in their search for couples friends. Should you go this route, however, beware of the strangers you meet online. Some of them are sexual predators and criminals. When meeting strangers for the first few times, be sure to do so in well-lit, public places. Never give out vital stats, such as banking numbers or identification numbers. Take precautions.
Have people introduce you.Blind dates don’t have to be awkward when you go on them as a couple. In fact, they can be fun. Ask friends to fix up you two with couples with whom you could hang out. Friends who already know you can help you broaden your net. After all, if you get committed to just one couple, you might get on each other’s nerves after a while. You have to play the field.