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Five Ways to Overcome the Post-Wedding Blues

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Brides and grooms spend at least one year in the spotlight as an engaged couple. There are numerous celebrations in their honor. On the big day, all eyes are on them. This is especially true for the bride, who is the real star of the show. But when couples cut the cake at the end of the reception, they are symbolically cutting their time in the sun. For some people that is tough. If you’re suffering from the post-wedding blues, you can get out of your funk. Here's how:

1. Gain Perspective

Your wedding was fun but it was only one day. Your marriage should last a lifetime. Truly, the day after the wedding is the really exciting day because it’s the beginning of your life together. Now is your chance to show your commitment and love to one another everyday, create a family and home, and dream big. Start discussing the next big goal you have as a couple. It could be something as small as saving up for a romantic weekend getaway or as big as purchasing a home. Whatever it is, you’ll choose together, and it will give you something else on which to focus.

2. Get Cozy

For the last few months, you’ve probably done nothing but think about and plan a wedding. While the chores may have been fun, they were still work. Planning a wedding can zap your energy and add to your stress. Now that it’s all over, you probably have regained some precious time. It’s okay if you want to take a rest and do absolutely nothing for a little while. Bask in your newfound laziness. Get in your pajamas, make some popcorn, throw in a DVD, grab a blanket, and snuggle with your spouse on the couch. If your better half leans over for a smooch, all the better!

3. Go Out

Engaged couples have a tendency to neglect their friends and family in the days leading up to the wedding because they have so many things to do. Make it up to your pals and relatives by going out to dinner or the movies with them. If you’re into nature, take a hike. If you love the beach, go for a swim in the ocean. Do things you enjoy and haven’t had the time to do in a while with the people who knew and loved you before you were married. They’ll appreciate your company and lift your spirits.

4. Throw a Party

If the party planner in you craves another feast, then set a date for a get together at your place. It will be on a smaller scale than a wedding, but you’ll still be able to create invitations, place settings, centerpieces, and a menu. You can whip out all the great gifts you received – from that blender to the fine china – and put them to good use. Invite people who you wish could have spent more one-on-one time with you at the wedding, and make it a point to have some fun.

5. Take on a Project

Many a bride and groom have felt nostalgic in the days after the wedding. That’s okay. You can feel free to embrace your nostalgia. Talk about the day, look at pictures, watch the video. In fact, you could take on a project that would honor your wedding in some way. For instance, you could frame some of your favorite photos and create a collage on your wall, put together a scrapbook, or make a video replete with music and burn it onto a DVD. Such activities keep your mind busy, give you the chance to dwell on the happy memories you created, and leave you with a keepsake that you can turn to whenever you want to put a smile on your face.
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