Getting Along – The First Fight
From: FrancescaDiMeglio
To: All
Hi,
What was your first big argument as newlyweds? I'm really curious what mine will be. I'd like to be prepared. :)
I find that most couples fight over the same things. And most of the time it's silly stuff that you'll laugh about later. Every once in a while, it helps you unearth something huge -- like something profound that you never knew about your spouse. More often than not, however, it's about the laundry or that dang toothpaste cap.
Here's to peace,
Francesca
From: sjfgwu99
To: FrancescaDiMeglio
Funny! My husband and I often do fight about dumb things. Like he hates when I do laundry as that means he has to fold (which I am terrible at). I also get annoyed if he doesn't replace the tissue box. I do get a bit "miffed" about these things but I try to remember to pick my battles on the more important stuff!
From: MollyElise
To: FrancescaDiMeglio
Our first fight was over him coming to bed with me, he'd like to stay up late and play music or video games, I would want him to come to bed. We've compromised, he comes to bed most of the time and I don't whine when he doesn't.
From: FrancescaDiMeglio
To: MollyElise
Hi,
I think that's a common fight actually, In fact, I recently saw an episode of that Fox sitcom, "'Til Death," where the newlywed couple gets into an argument because the wife forced the husband to go to bed early with her. Your compromise sounds much healthier than the fighting that went on in the sitcom. How did you get to the compromise? I think that's the hardest part in these situations -- arriving at the compromise.
Talk to you soon. Happy new year!
All the best,
Francesca
From: MollyElise
To: FrancescaDiMeglio
Well it was a messy argument that lasted a good year or so, lol. I compromised by trusting that he is a grown man and can make his own decisions about when to go to bed. He compromised by understanding why I wanted him to come to bed and now comes more often than not (he would stay up too late then be grouchy and / or late to work). When he decides to stay up later now I don't get upset by it.
From: FrancescaDiMeglio
To: MollyElise
Hi,
Thanks for getting back to me. I'm going to have to keep this in mind. I'm an early to bed/early to rise kind of girl. And my soon-to-be-husband is a night owl. He works the night shift right now, so his body clock is a disaster. I'm sure this is the kind of thing we'll argue about, too. You are mature to take the stance you did and to agree to the compromise. Way to go! I'm also relieved to know that there was a long argument that initiated the compromise. That's usually how things go in my relationship, too. LOL! After we lay our cards on the table, however, we somehow come to a resolution -- eventually.
Have a terrific new year!
Talk to you soon,
Francesca
To join in on this conversation about the first fight couples have after marriage, visit this discussion thread on the Newlyweds Forum.
More information on arguing successfully: 10 Tips for Fighting Fairly
Money – How to Spend Wedding Cash Gifts
From: FrancescaDiMeglio
To: All
Hi,
My brother officially became a newlywed in October. At the time, he and his new wife received numerous monetary gifts from family and friends. I couldn't help but start thinking about what they should do with all that cash. I'm sure other newly married couples wonder about that as well because, if invested properly, these gifts can keep on giving, and you can live a comfortable life that is free of arguments about a lack of money. To help, I put together a guide with some of your options for wisely investing or spending your wedding cash gifts. Check it out -- and get on the road to fortune.
All the best,
Francesca
From: MakLC
To: FrancescaDiMeglio
In my case, we spent some of the money on our honeymoon and I think the rest went back to paying for the wedding.
From: FrancescaDiMeglio
To: MakLC
I think my husband to be and I will have to do the same (assuming we get some cash wedding gifts). I hear that a lot of people go into major debt for their weddings. Anyone know of stories like that? If so, what are you doing to get out of the debt and pay your bills after the wedding?
MakLC, thanks for sharing this idea about how to spend the wedding cash. It's a great suggestion that many a newlywed can use.
Talk to you soon,
Francesca
To join in on this conversation about spending wedding cash gifts, visit this discussion thread on the Newlyweds Forum.
For more help with money: Six Ways Newlyweds Can Save Money
