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Francesca  Di Meglio

Dealing with the Uninvited

By February 21, 2013

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Recent newlyweds have often had to deal with those friends and distant relatives who didn't make the cut when devising their wedding guest list. I'm sure some of you have your own scars from that co-worker who waited and waited for an invitation or your third cousin Lulu who just assumed she would get the chance to cut a rug at your wedding. You've probably already shared an awkward meeting, probably soon after you returned from your honeymoon and the person is certain that he or she was not on the guest list. In these situations, you should politely explain that you had an intimate ceremony and reception and leave it at that.

Apparently, things are even more complicated for today's brides and grooms, some of you included. With the rise of social networks, where brides and grooms might share the details of wedding planning, more and more B- and C-list acquaintances are assuming they're invited when they're not. As a result, a new, disturbing trend is taking over the wedding biz. Now, soon-to-be newlyweds are sending pretty notes to alert guests that they are not invited. Basically, it's a Don't Save the Date card. Most etiquette experts are dismissing this idea. They say it adds insult to injury and is just plain rude. Still, some feel the need to tell people that the invitation is never coming. Did any of you partake in this new trend? How did people react to it? What do you all think of this?

If you're still in the wedding planning phase, you should check out About.com's Guide to Weddings, especially the parts on how to deal with the guest list.

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