I recently read a Dear Abby column in which someone explained that she gave gifts for a bridal shower and wedding that were never returned despite the couple's break up. The couple sent a thank you card with a form letter stating that they were getting a divorce just two months after the nuptials. Now, the ex-bride was getting married again, and the writer wanted to know if she was right to be angry about not getting the gifts back and whether she had to give another gift.
Without reading the response, I would say she is right to be angry. But after two months the couple might have used kitchen utensils and gadgets or lingerie or even money that were given as gifts. Then, what? You can't give back used presents. In the case of the next wedding, I would say that the writer could just decline the invitation to the wedding or any wedding related events to get out of giving another gift. Of course, if she wants to attend, she is obligated to give a gift. All in all, however, I think the original bride and groom, who decided to divorce so quickly after the wedding, should have been more mindful of using the gifts and sending them back to their guests. C'mon. They had to have had an idea that this might not work out if it only took two months for the couple to separate, don't you think? What would you do?