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Francesca  Di Meglio

Should You Have Just One Child?

By July 13, 2010

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"One and Done" is the cover of the latest issue of Time, and it is all about how more couples are choosing to have only one child. The article aims to prove that only children are not spoiled or unhealthy or anti-social like many people have thought for years. It shows that couples are making this decision for practical reasons, and their kids will turn out great. Thus, the idea that only children are spoiled brats throwing tantrums as teens or the weird kid in your science class who got straight As but never seemed to wash his hair or the one with no friends because he can't relate to anyone besides his parents, is not accurate.

I was particularly interested in this story because I have relatives and friends who are only children. And I think they turned out just fine. In fact, I can see why some couples today might want to have only one child. You can better parent one child because you have more time for him or her. With the demanding jobs most of us have, multiple children would make it harder to balance work and life. Frankly, in an economy as damaged as ours, one child is less of a financial obligation than multiple children. Still, it's not the right choice for any of us. As the oldest of three, I think multiple kids is just fine, too. The point I take away from this is that couples have to decide what works best for them and their lifestyle. What do you think?

July 14, 2010 at 6:35 am
(1) Regina says:

As a child of a family of six and a mom of 3 I always liked big families. With Sibblings you always have others to help when your parents need help and to help each other.
On The other hand an only child with cousins can share that experience and aid from them.

July 14, 2010 at 10:02 am
(2) Potter Beth says:

I’m with you, Francesca, that each couple needs to visit this issue and clearly decide what is best for them, given personalities, desires, and situational demands. There is not one “right” answer.

February 18, 2012 at 12:22 am
(3) Marie Jude says:

All of my friends had siblings, and i could see that they had a bond with someone that i did’t have, and i wanted it. On the first day of school every year there would be the kids that the teacher would already know because of their older brother or sister. In childhood disputes siblings would “gang up” on me, taking each other’s side. I never learned how to share like the other kids, what was mine, was mine. I don’t know how to sacrifice. And i never quite felt at ease with people of my peer group. having spent mist of my time with my parents and adult family members became the normal thing for me, and i shunned people my own age, my social skills are still not up to par with others.

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