Sensitivity is an important characteristic in your husband or wife. Most people seek out others, who display empathy and sympathy, who feel for you when you're down and want to care for you when you're sick. Many women say they want "sensitive" men. In one way, they're telling the truth. No one wants an abusive or mean husband, after all. But a man who is too sensitive is a turn off to many women, too. It's a fine line men have to walk -- and the line gets finer all the time.
I personally have never seen my husband cry, and we've known each other for six years. He didn't even tear up at our wedding. Part of me wants to see him cry sometime. It seems robotic to be so stoic. I want to know what moves him. I want to know he's sensitive. But then I think about it. Really think about it. Part of me really appreciates it when he's strong and tough and not at all a cry baby. I can be the one who breaks down a bit if he is strong. That can be a relief for a type-A personality.
Then, I think, "Boy, we women are not always fair to men." What do we want? Do we want someone sensitive or do we want someone hard? Are we ever going to be okay with them breaking down? We send our men mixed signals and then they don't know what to do. Some of them cry waterfalls and want to talk about their feelings day and night. They do their hair and have more beauty products than their wife. Others never cry, never show any emotions, and refrain from doing anything that could have them remotely mistaken for a woman.
We women, however, have to be clear about what we want. We have to be open to men who are sensitive without being weak, emotionally intelligent without being a wuss. We need to allow men to be as strong and weak as we are. Frankly, I want my men to be the same as us women -- strong yet sensitive. We all should be able to hold our head up high, shed a tear now and then, but not fall to pieces at the first sign of challenge or difficulty. It's that simple.