Bringing your spouse to a castle like this one in Italy is a surefire way to set the mood for love. © Photo by Francesca Di Meglio
Without love, sex is just sex. With love, sex is a spiritual connection between two people. It brings sex to another level. But to maintain passion, you need romance. In other words, romance can be the difference between having sex and making love. Although romance sometimes just happens -- your husband speaks to you with his eyes across the room at a party or your wife leads you to the bedroom without saying a word -- it usually requires some effort. There is no shame in taking the time to plan for romance and set the mood for love.
Recently, my husband prepared a big surprise for me for our first wedding anniversary. When I first wrote about it in this blog, I didn't know yet what the surprise was. He took me to spend a night in Castello Aragonese, a real castle attached to the island of Ischia in Italy. I didn't even know that there was a hotel in the castle. But it was the perfect setting for a romantic night -- with its arches and flowers and royal heritage. The hotel was a converted monastery and therefore had no television. There was nothing to do but focus on one another. He certainly set the mood for love.
But you don't have to go to lengths as great as those that my husband took for our anniversary. You could simply set a romantic table for dinner one night or wear sexy lingerie to bed or look deeply into your spouse's eyes and say, "I love you." The point is to be thoughtful and set the mood for love. After all, you will need to keep the fires burning throughout your marriage. You can't get complacent at the very beginning of your lifetime together.