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When Women Marry Younger Men

By June 8, 2009

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AOL is reporting that the Globe reported that 52-year-old Katie Couric is planning to marry her 35-year-old boyfriend Brooks Perlin later this year. Couric, who lost her husband and the father of her daughters, Jay Monahan, to cancer in 1998, is hardly the first woman to date a younger man. And men date -- and marry -- far younger women all the time.

Still, this news caught my eye in a way that word of a male TV news anchor marrying a younger woman wouldn't. Indeed, it led me to bring it up to all of you in this blog. Why? We label women who date younger men "cougars" as if they are fierce, aggressive, wild animals. These couples throw us off balance. Even some women are guilty of looking at fellow women who date younger men with suspicion. Now, Couric, the first female to anchor the nightly news without a co-host, might actually marry her younger man.

I say, "Good for you, Katie Couric." She deserves love -- and all its richness and joy -- again. Does it really matter if it's with someone 17 years her junior? As long as a couple is happy with one another and the life they can make together, then no one should deny or judge them in my opinion. But not everyone agrees. What do you think? Is it fair to judge older women who marry younger men?
June 9, 2009 at 7:34 am
(1) Regina says:

I think Joan Lunden of Good Morning America
years ago also married a much younger man
but she was already off the air good for them
as long as both make each other happy who cares.

February 20, 2010 at 6:18 pm
(2) Joan says:

I’ve been married to a man 18 years younger than myself for 32 years. We raised five children together, three of them ours.

Never have been happier and every year is better than the last.

May 2, 2011 at 9:02 pm
(3) Ken says:

This thread is so old that my comment may never be seen. As a rising high school (male) senior, I was working a Summer job. My work was outdoors and the office staff was mostly females also working Summer jobs. I frequently flirted with one of the office staff and found out where she lived. Drove my new 1958 Chevrolet over there on Sunday and invited her for a ride. The location of her house left no doubt that she was in the territory of our rival high school. So I asked her what class she was in- rising senior. We dated the rest of the Summer and she announced that next week she would be leaving for school- a rising college senior! Cut to the chase- I attended her college graduation and she attended my high school graduation within few days of the same date in 1959. We married in 1962 when I was a rising senior in college. Still together almost 49 years later. Two wonderful children now in their 40′s. She works hard and is thrifty. And we are multimillionaires, but live simply. I told her that if everyone knew what I know, there would not be enough women her age to meet the demand.

May 3, 2011 at 12:32 pm
(4) Newlyweds Guide Francesca says:

Ken, I saw your comment and it’s very sweet. Thanks for sharing your story with us. You’re welcome to share a bit about your wedding day at this part of the site, too – http://newlyweds.about.com/u/sty/afterthewedding/yourweddingstories/form.htm

Thanks again! Best wishes to you!

August 6, 2012 at 11:29 pm
(5) Jenna Olsson says:

Women who date younger men than themselves should equally be respected and be left alone, just like men are respected and left alone for dating and/or marrying even a much younger woman than themselves. People (other women included) who criticize ladies for dating a younger guy, is a sign of ignorance, envy , and jealousy. That’s because they’re narrow minded, ignorant, and have no life if their own , and are very hypocritical.

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