Political Differences Don't Have to Kill Your Marriage
Marilyn and Dean Piper left their wedding reception to attend a campaign event for now president-elect Barack Obama at the United Methodist Church in Iowa back in December 2007. This couple appears to share similar political views, but not everyone does. © Photographer Scott Olson/Getty Images
Last night, the American people -- along with president-elect Barack Obama and his family -- made history. We elected a black man to be our president for the first time ever in a nation that was born of slavery. The couple in the photo above was so excited at the prospect of an Obama-led United States that they left their wedding reception to attend a rally for him last year. No matter what side you were on before the announcement that Obama won, you must be proud that our nation has risen above racism and come so much closer to Martin Luther King, Jr.'s dream.
Not all couples are like the one in the photo. Some married couples -- where one spouse is a Democrat and the other a Republican -- might find it difficult to be around each other today, when one person is celebrating victory and the other suffering through defeat. My husband and I tend to be on the same team when it comes to politics -- and as an Italian citizen, he can't vote in U.S. elections anyway. But a few of my relatives take a point of view different from my own. After a Thanksgiving meal turned war, I came up with simple rules that keep the peace. Remain mum when the subject of politics comes up, watch election results and other political speeches, news, etc., in a room away from those with differing viewpoints, and refrain from answering questions meant to brew a political debate. In fact, you shouldn't even tell some people who you support. Now that the election is over, if you're with the winning side, do not rub it in your spouse's face. When politics comes up again, just give him or her an unforgettable kiss. You'll forget all about arguing if you do it right!
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Now that’s dedication, leaving a reception for a political event. Wondering why it was booked on that day to begin with??
Duh, just read it again and see the reception was months ago, not last night.
While I agree with you in principle, political and religious views reflect the essence of a person’s individuality. Marriage is a union of hearts, and chances for success improve with hearts in harmony.
As always, you have great words of wisdom, Francesca! I especially love your advice on the unforgettable kiss. Hurray for unity!!
Now that’s dedication!
You never know, in 20 years your views just might change – or your spouse’s might! (Guess how I know!)
that would be complicated if two people fervently disagreed on such fundamental beliefs.
Couples are bound to disagree over one thing or another, the important thing is to remember why you love your partner and listen to what they have to say even when you don’t agree with them. (The kiss thing sounds like a good idea too!)